Therapy for Moms
Navigating Divorce or Feeling Stuck in Their Relationship
In person in OKC or virtual across Oklahoma
You’re not broken. You’re waking up.
You never thought it would come to this.
You’ve replayed the conversations in your head. The ones where you begged. Compromised. Stayed quiet to keep the peace. You’ve weighed what it might mean for your kids, your finances, your identity—and still, something inside won’t quiet down.
Whether you're just beginning to question the future of your marriage or you're in the thick of separation or divorce, you’re likely carrying an unbearable amount of pressure. To hold it together. To make the "right" decision. To be strong—for everyone but yourself.
Your body is starting to notice that something is up.
The tension in your shoulders?
The jaw that hasn’t unclenched for a long time?
The fact that your body is often bowed over from all the stress?
The headache that won’t fucking quit?
These are signs of something greater.
Underneath, there’s a bone-deep exhaustion. One that comes from years of self-abandonment, emotional overfunctioning, and trying to work on something that refuses to get better.
You may not even know who you are anymore.
The Silent Struggle Behind the Scenes
From the outside, you might look composed. You handle the schedules, the meals, the pickups and drop-offs, the work obligations. You function. Internally though? That shit is unraveling.
You question yourself constantly—Am I doing the right thing?
You feel guilty no matter what decision you make.
You’re grieving a version of life that never existed the way you hoped it would.
You worry about your kids—and then you worry about how much you worry.
You recognize that you are missing pieces of yourself, and have no idea on how to retrieve them.
You’re trying to hold all the feelings— grief, fear, anger, and hope—all at the same time.
Maybe the relationship has slowly eroded under the weight of it all. Maybe your partner is emotionally distant. Or critical. Or outright cruel. Maybe the relationship has quietly broken apart over time.
When Over-Functioning Becomes a Survival Pattern
Whatever prompted it, the over-functioning you’ve relied on for so long has created an unhealthy system—one where minimizing your pain became a means of survival. And get by you have, but at what cost?
And when you try to talk about it?
People say:
“At least he’s not hitting you.”
“You have to stay for the kids.”
“Relationships are hard for everyone.”
“Are you sure you’re not just being dramatic?”
So you retreat. You rationalize. You pretend. And the longer you do, the more you disconnect from yourself.
The myths that keep you stuck
Let’s name the lies that hold mothers hostage in unhappy or unsafe relationships:
Lie #1: Divorce means you’ve failed.
Truth: Sometimes divorce is the bravest act of self-preservation you’ll ever make. Staying in a relationship that diminishes you is not a fucking badge of honor.
Lie #2: Leaving will damage your kids.
Truth: Living in a home filled with tension, emotional shutdown, or chronic conflict impacts kids more deeply than being raised by a parent that is able to be present and attuned. Your healing becomes their roadmap.
Lie #3: Therapy is only for “broken” people.
Truth: Therapy is for mothers who are ready to reclaim their voice. Who are tired of shrinking. Who want to break intergenerational patterns with grace and grit.
Lie #4: You’re being selfish.
Truth: Honoring your truth—especially in a culture that rewards self-sacrifice in women—is anything but selfish. It’s sacred.
You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode. You don’t have to keep carrying pain that was never meant to be yours alone.
A healing path back to yourself—one breath, one truth at a time.
This is a space where you don’t have to perform, apologize, or explain your pain away. I work with mothers who are:
Questioning whether to stay or leave
Preparing for separation or actively divorcing
Trying to rebuild their identity after a marriage ends
Dealing with emotional, verbal, or narcissistic abuse
Longing for peace, clarity, and inner stability—regardless of the outcome
Whether you’re still in the relationship or already out of it, therapy gives you a grounded, nonjudgmental place to unravel the confusion and rebuild your inner foundation.
How Therapy Can Help You:
Break free from patterns of self-abandonment.
Stop silencing your needs just to keep the peace. You get to take up space—even in your own story.
Work through trauma, not just symptoms.
Using trauma-informed approaches like the HOCI model, we can explore the core beliefs driving your anxiety, guilt, or fear—and help you create more connections with the side of yourself that is wise and grounded in truth.
Practice secure internal dialogue.
You’ve spent years being gaslit or emotionally invalidated. Together, we’ll help you build an internal system that feels safe, calm, and supportive—even with the chaos of the outside world.
Reconnect with your body and intuition.
Divorce, or ending a relationship, is not just a legal process—it’s a nervous system event. Making a decision like this is difficult, so even if you stay together, you’ll need support. We’ll use gentle regulation tools to help you trust your gut and reclaim your energy.
Start the framework for parenting from a more grounded, authentic place.
You can’t protect your kids from everything—however, you can model what grit, boundaries, and emotional honesty looks like. And, you can show them how to pivot when life gets difficult.
Why work with me?
As an anxiety and relational therapist who works primarily with high-functioning women, I understand the complicated grief of divorce. The confusion. The cognitive dissonance. The way your body remembers even when your mind says, “I should be fine by now.”
My clients are often the “strong ones”—the ones others turn to. But here, you get to be the one who falls apart and rebuilds—without shame.
I offer both weekly therapy and therapy intensives (in-person in Oklahoma City or across Oklahoma virtually) for women who are ready to do the deep work. Whether you need support navigating the first stages of divorce, or you’re a few years out and still feel stuck, this is your space to untangle, grieve, and grow.
You don’t need permission to want more.
Maybe you’ve tried everything to make it work:
You’ve read the books.
You’ve swallowed your needs.
You’ve avoided your feelings— or pushed them down completely. And now? You’re ready for more—not in a performative “strong woman” kind of way, but in the quiet, steady, deeply empowered way that comes from finally choosing yourself.
If that’s you, I’m here. Let’s talk.
Let therapy be a space to find your footing again.
You don’t have to walk this path alone—here, you’ll find the support and care to help you take those first steps towards a future that you can look forward to.
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